Gay marriage is confusing? Quantum physics is confusing.

Trying to get a childproof bottle open? Confusing. Gay marriage? Not confusing.

Dear friends of ours, two women to be specific, are getting married next year. We're pretty chuffed about the wedding because, a) there is a lot of love between these two and it lifts me up when I'm around it and, b) many of the invited guests know how to party likes it's 1999 and I'm always up for a good party with people I know well. We don't yet know whether there will be two suits, two gowns or one of each at the altar, but it doesn't matter. They are committed to each other, and their marriage, and all the people who love them will be there to witness it. The only question on my mind, as it is at every wedding, is whether or not the DJ will be any good and will he/she be able to get everyone up on the dance floor.

I realize there are still some people who don't believe in gay marriage, just as there are those who don't believe in true love, or that dogs who can communicate their feelings with their eyes, or why eating chocolate every day helps you live longer. (It does.)

This is what I think:

Love is love.

The End.

"Now they’re saying that we can’t have gay marriage because it would confuse the kids. But you know what else confuses kids? Everything: Time zones. Books without pictures. Cargo pants. Certain hair colors. Jello molds. The magic trick with the quarter behind the ear. Mirrors. Mentadent toothpaste dispensers. Everything confuses kids, because they’re kids. So “Will it confuse kids?” is probably not the best litmus test for, well, anything besides toys and Spongebob plotlines (and even then, there’s a lot of leeway)."

Amelie Gillette at A.V. club

From the Huffington Post

My Gay Lifestyle, by Dominick Scudera

I live the gay lifestyle, the gay lifestyle that is often mentioned by some Republican candidates for president. For those who are unfamiliar with the lifestyle, this is a typical day:

7:00 a.m. I wake up, and just as I have done every morning since puberty, I choose to be gay today. This will come as a great relief to my gay, homosexual, male lover who lies beside me. Because being gay is a choice, our relationship is a gamble day to day. Even though we have both chosen to remain gay and to be together every day for the past 16 years, we never take anything for granted. One of us just might throw in the towel one day and...read the rest here.

thanks Jason D. for the link.

Proposition 8 and the Human Heart

I've never watched this show before but someone posted this clip on one of the writers' forums I frequent, and I was really moved by it. Unlike Olbemann, I do have people close to me who are gay, and I have seen them struggle with discrimination and shame that stems from ignorance. Some of them have even died because of it. To say those deaths were senseless is a gross understatement.

Why, why, why are straight people so threatened by gay marriage? One devout couple said to my husband recently that the Bible clearly states homosexuality is "an abomination." When challenged on it and asked where that particular passage is - my husband being fairly familiar with the book in question and having discussed this very topic with the Archbishop of the Anglican Church who said unequivocally there isn't any such passage - they backed down. Not that we believe it's a sin, they said, but the gays (as in "those people") will have to answer someday to God because He is the one who is apparently harboring the grudge.

I've said it for years and I'll say it again. Love is love. It doesn't matter if body part A fits into part B. Love is love. A heterosexual couple with children is no more or less a family than a grandmother raising her grandchildren or two committed men or women raising their biological or adopted children. Family is defined as "nearest and dearest" in the dictionary.

Nearest and dearest.

I can't say I'm against ignorance per se. Ignorance has value when it is recognized for what it is, and used as a step forward towards wonder and curiosity and ultimately, knowledge. Have a look at John Shelby Spong, a Christian theologian, Biblical scholar and former Bishop who wrote JESUS FOR THE NON-RELIGIOUS amongst many other worthy books. He says:

"All human beings bear God's image and must be respected for what each person is. Therefore, no external description of one's being, whether based on race, ethnicity, gender or sexual orientation, can properly be used as the basis for either rejection or discrimination."

Yeah. What he said.


Have a good weekend. Love one another. Remember, 'tis the season of love and goodwill, and that should extend to every last one of us.

Oh, and a GIANT P.S. Have a look at this (thank you kc dyer and Susan A. for passing it on. I LOVE IT!) This is too good to be buried in the comments: